trying hard
04-22-2008, 01:07 PM
Hi Dr.Bradley,
I love your book and have passed it on to others. Here is my question. My daughter, 12 years old, has always been a bit anxious, shy and quick to frustration/anger. She is a good student (honors) and has good friendships. At home she has always been, at times, loving and funny and angry, teasing of her younger brother and sort of agitated. Since puberty her anger has increased and she has begun yelling at me and her father if she is angry. she is unreasonable during those times and refuses to talk civilly about issues. she has taken to yelling and talking over us so we can't get a word in edgewise. I believe she uses manipulation to get her way (manipulating with anger). she appears really out of control with her anger - although she hasn't destroyed things she has pushed her father and grabs me when I walk away from her during these times. She seems to go from 0-60 with nothing in between. She eventually is contrite and apologizes but continues to be rude. Lately she is cursing not directly at us but under her breath. We have difficulty with consequences as taking away the cell phone is fine but doesn't really resolve the problem.Is this in the normal range of "your teen is crazy" and any suggestions of how to handle these situations.
thank you
Frustrated mom
I love your book and have passed it on to others. Here is my question. My daughter, 12 years old, has always been a bit anxious, shy and quick to frustration/anger. She is a good student (honors) and has good friendships. At home she has always been, at times, loving and funny and angry, teasing of her younger brother and sort of agitated. Since puberty her anger has increased and she has begun yelling at me and her father if she is angry. she is unreasonable during those times and refuses to talk civilly about issues. she has taken to yelling and talking over us so we can't get a word in edgewise. I believe she uses manipulation to get her way (manipulating with anger). she appears really out of control with her anger - although she hasn't destroyed things she has pushed her father and grabs me when I walk away from her during these times. She seems to go from 0-60 with nothing in between. She eventually is contrite and apologizes but continues to be rude. Lately she is cursing not directly at us but under her breath. We have difficulty with consequences as taking away the cell phone is fine but doesn't really resolve the problem.Is this in the normal range of "your teen is crazy" and any suggestions of how to handle these situations.
thank you
Frustrated mom