amom
05-31-2004, 09:12 AM
Thank you for your book. I now have a question about a situation that is shocking me. My 13 year old 8th grade daughter recently told me, completely voluntarily, that she played a drinking game at a friend's house. She says she drank 2 beers and threw up. She says she hated it and wont drink again. I suspect she only told me a partial truth, but respect that she told me something I really would never have found out on my own.
I listened calmly, said clearly that I disapproved, but didn't give any consequence verbally, since I think that will close off this vital information flow. In my head, I started thinking about moving, not just forbidding all time with parents I don't trust 100%. She is already in counseling. I knew, from her, that her friends had started experimenting with drugs, and knew that their friendships were falling apart because my daughter wouldn't go along and even argued against it.
I am not sure how else to deal with this. Her father (divorced) is an alcoholic, and I come from a long line of alcoholics, but it skipped me. I have gone to Al-anon for many years, so I know the disease's power well and am scared to death. What should I do with the information she gave me?
I listened calmly, said clearly that I disapproved, but didn't give any consequence verbally, since I think that will close off this vital information flow. In my head, I started thinking about moving, not just forbidding all time with parents I don't trust 100%. She is already in counseling. I knew, from her, that her friends had started experimenting with drugs, and knew that their friendships were falling apart because my daughter wouldn't go along and even argued against it.
I am not sure how else to deal with this. Her father (divorced) is an alcoholic, and I come from a long line of alcoholics, but it skipped me. I have gone to Al-anon for many years, so I know the disease's power well and am scared to death. What should I do with the information she gave me?