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mackadi
10-07-2004, 01:04 PM
I left 3 other messages but haven't heard back from you yet. I'm hoping you will see this message. Our daughter is 18 and pregnant due in Jan. She has left home several times and this spring we finally changed the locks as she won't communicate with us when she does this. She was staying with different friends and asked to come home. We sat down and had a good talk and agreed for her to come home with minimal guidelines, ie. calling if not coming home, not coming home in early morning hours, etc.--just basic respect stuff. A few weeks ago, she agreed to cash some checks for a guy and since our bank acct was linked to hers, we wound up owing the bank $2,000. She seemed sorry at the time and said the guy pulled a gun on her when she tried to back out. This was reported to police & they are in process of arresting him. She says she's pay us back. Then 4 days ago she called & said she'd be home but just didn't come. We left several messages for her on her cell phone which she didn't answer. She came by house yesterday & left a message saying she didn't run away & wasn't mad. I called & finally talked to her yesterday and told her how hurt I was and why didn't she call us? Her reply: "I don't know" and silence. She said she was sorry & planned to come home in a few days. She's supposed to be in school (which I don't think she went to) and missed her 1st appt with a therapist which I was hoping would be someone she could talk to about her pregnancy, etc. It's like she is 2 different people. How do we handle this roller coaster? Any advice? Thank you!!

mackadi
10-08-2004, 09:48 PM
Finally got in touch with our daughter and told her how hurt we were that she just left without a word. She said she didn't know why and apologized. She's staying with a friend and says it's for a few days. She has agreed to get with me tomorrow and says she misses us and loves us. I'm hoping to just have a good talk and see what I can get her to communicate about how she's feeling, etc. The whole story of our situation is under another thread "She's not yet 18". I think we are on the right track and have kept the doors open but not sure how to handle it when she comes and goes like this. Please let me know anyone's thoughts and especially your insight Dr. B. Thanks!