berrymama
12-22-2004, 11:53 AM
My daughter turned 18 in November. A week before her birthday I found out she smokes cigarettes, drinks, has smoked marijuana, and has been having sex. We have always been very close and spend a lot of time together. I never had my head in the clouds, or looked the other way- in fact my eyes were always wide open, due to the addiction problems in our family. I have been talking to her about right & wrong since day one.
I had smelled beer on her 3 times, & tried to handle it like you advised in your book. One day I smelled smoke on her breath & she confessed all of the above to me, and said it had been going on for about a year!!! She started seeing a counselor. Tonight she went out after work(almost everyone she works with parties heavily & are older than her. One guy just got busted for large amounts of marijuana, and pills), she called to check in & sounded funny. I called her an hour later, & she sounded out of it. I insisted on picking her up,& was lucky to get directions from a voice in the background-someone from work. She stumbled out of the house & into the car. She confessed to doing Zanex!!!!!!
Plus drinking!!! I was going to take her to the hospital to get her stomach pumped. My husband talked me out of it. She said she took one, & had half of a beer. Later in the night she said she took 2 pills & didn't know how many beers. It has been hours now that she has been home & I have been waking her every hour. I feel negligent for not taking her to the hospital, even though at this point I know she'll be ok. I found a bag of Marijuana & 3 pills-which I assume are Zanex?? (They don't say that on them though). My name is also on her car title, so she lost that privilege last week when she drank, and then drove. How do I handle life life threatening situations, and set drastic limits, when she is throwing her age in my face all the time.I don't want her to move out of the house. I thought we were breezing through adolescence-now I don't trust my guts, & the trust between my daughter & I is shattered.
I still expect the best of her, but then the proverbial punch in the throat seems to always come. I love your book,& I know you are full of wisdom. PLEASE HELP ME-I would appreciate any advice!!!!!
I had smelled beer on her 3 times, & tried to handle it like you advised in your book. One day I smelled smoke on her breath & she confessed all of the above to me, and said it had been going on for about a year!!! She started seeing a counselor. Tonight she went out after work(almost everyone she works with parties heavily & are older than her. One guy just got busted for large amounts of marijuana, and pills), she called to check in & sounded funny. I called her an hour later, & she sounded out of it. I insisted on picking her up,& was lucky to get directions from a voice in the background-someone from work. She stumbled out of the house & into the car. She confessed to doing Zanex!!!!!!
Plus drinking!!! I was going to take her to the hospital to get her stomach pumped. My husband talked me out of it. She said she took one, & had half of a beer. Later in the night she said she took 2 pills & didn't know how many beers. It has been hours now that she has been home & I have been waking her every hour. I feel negligent for not taking her to the hospital, even though at this point I know she'll be ok. I found a bag of Marijuana & 3 pills-which I assume are Zanex?? (They don't say that on them though). My name is also on her car title, so she lost that privilege last week when she drank, and then drove. How do I handle life life threatening situations, and set drastic limits, when she is throwing her age in my face all the time.I don't want her to move out of the house. I thought we were breezing through adolescence-now I don't trust my guts, & the trust between my daughter & I is shattered.
I still expect the best of her, but then the proverbial punch in the throat seems to always come. I love your book,& I know you are full of wisdom. PLEASE HELP ME-I would appreciate any advice!!!!!