kkelli
02-14-2005, 12:35 PM
It's been about a month since my last post and things are much, much better. My daughter had something amazing happen to her. After not allowing her to see her "best friend" or the boyfriend for a couple of weeks (and her not really protesting it), her friend came over one night and the two of them decided to make a prank phone call to a girl my daughter didn't know. Her friend made the call telling this girl's parents that her pregnancy test was positive. The parents traced the call and called the police. This "friend" then suddenly felt sick and called her dad to pick her up, leaving my daughter to face the music alone. She is no longer allowed so socialize with this girl. It was meant to be really. Two days later the other girl's mother called me and after apologizing and telling her the troubles my daughter is having, she started telling me how her daughter went through the same things (they go to the same school), but how she was doing much better, and going to a christian youth group. The next night this girl called my daughter and invited her to go with her to the next one. She went and when she came back, she was so excited about the experience she had. She just cried for a while, and asked if I would get her the youth bible they use (we did). The two of them have become friends, and she's went to church with her too. I know my prayers were answered.
The boyfriend is pretty much out of the picture. We've told her we won't allow her to see him anymore. After her "breaking up" with him just before all of this happened, he hit her at school one day and then threatened her on the internet. We called the police. I know she still talks to him at school, but isn't protesting not seeing him. He's tried telling her it's her fault he hit her. We are telling her again and again that no one deserves to be hit. She promised her good friends that she will not date him again.
She's turned her school work around too and is doing well except for one class. One of her teachers saw me at school and said he didn't know what happened but saw a big change in her. She's still going to therapy and we're working on communication issues at home. Last night we all sat down to work on some of the things we end up arguing about (TV time, phone time, computer use, homework, chores, etc). We then came up with a plan with rewards and consequences. We let them come up with most of the ideas and it was amazing how positive it was.
I'm noticing a few other subtle things she is changing such as her clothes and makeup. We're staying close. I've told her how proud I am of her. Just thought I would share a positive story with everyone for Valentine's Day. Stay hopeful.
The boyfriend is pretty much out of the picture. We've told her we won't allow her to see him anymore. After her "breaking up" with him just before all of this happened, he hit her at school one day and then threatened her on the internet. We called the police. I know she still talks to him at school, but isn't protesting not seeing him. He's tried telling her it's her fault he hit her. We are telling her again and again that no one deserves to be hit. She promised her good friends that she will not date him again.
She's turned her school work around too and is doing well except for one class. One of her teachers saw me at school and said he didn't know what happened but saw a big change in her. She's still going to therapy and we're working on communication issues at home. Last night we all sat down to work on some of the things we end up arguing about (TV time, phone time, computer use, homework, chores, etc). We then came up with a plan with rewards and consequences. We let them come up with most of the ideas and it was amazing how positive it was.
I'm noticing a few other subtle things she is changing such as her clothes and makeup. We're staying close. I've told her how proud I am of her. Just thought I would share a positive story with everyone for Valentine's Day. Stay hopeful.