Lynda
06-17-2006, 02:46 PM
I have a 15 yr old son who doesn't do great in school but can....and has in the past.....this year he started skipping.....he was offered help at school to assist him with his work, and he missed alot of that!! I worked with the teacher to help him at home.......in the last 2 weeks of school, he skipped alot.....thruout all of this, he was told clearly that he would have to attend summer school if he failed a class....and he would have to do so in another town with his Dad.....
He got into some trouble at home and got angry and left home for the nite to a friends (not the first time). He called and wanted to come home and I said that was fine, but he needed to understand that it was under our rules....he agreed...the last thing I said, was "You have 5 days of school left....don't skip". the very next day he skipped......He is now on the line for failing another class.....
His friends are an issue, but my question is ......I've told him he must go to his Dad's and if he refuses, he'll not be able to stay at home......(there are many, many trust issues and we can't leave him in the house)......I think getting away from his friends and influences will be helpful......am I wrong in doing this? I've told him I love him and the house is always open to him, but not if he can't be trusted and improve his behaviour and responsiblity.....He's also been to counselling and did stop due to logistics, but he usually is willing to go.
He is terribly mouthy and belligerant with me, likes to argue and get his way, has done damage to the house due to anger, and thinks he should be able to do what he wants if he does his chores and is home by a curfew.....has stolen and lied a tremendous amount....
....I've tried being calm, stopped the grounding, and most other things.....I feel at a complete loss and scared to death I'm sending him over to the "bad side".
He got into some trouble at home and got angry and left home for the nite to a friends (not the first time). He called and wanted to come home and I said that was fine, but he needed to understand that it was under our rules....he agreed...the last thing I said, was "You have 5 days of school left....don't skip". the very next day he skipped......He is now on the line for failing another class.....
His friends are an issue, but my question is ......I've told him he must go to his Dad's and if he refuses, he'll not be able to stay at home......(there are many, many trust issues and we can't leave him in the house)......I think getting away from his friends and influences will be helpful......am I wrong in doing this? I've told him I love him and the house is always open to him, but not if he can't be trusted and improve his behaviour and responsiblity.....He's also been to counselling and did stop due to logistics, but he usually is willing to go.
He is terribly mouthy and belligerant with me, likes to argue and get his way, has done damage to the house due to anger, and thinks he should be able to do what he wants if he does his chores and is home by a curfew.....has stolen and lied a tremendous amount....
....I've tried being calm, stopped the grounding, and most other things.....I feel at a complete loss and scared to death I'm sending him over to the "bad side".