drugs and how to get them to stop

[desperateparent]

We are so desperate for help with our almost 15 year old son . Unfortunately, our family went through some really traumatic stuff this past year and our kids have been hit the hardest. We are aware that our son is smoking pot and the frequency has increased dramatically. His whole personality has changed and he is a very angry, full of rage individual. He has lost interest in his usual activities, and is hanging around kids that are known trouble makers. Our son has always been very responsible and still when he goes out calls us every few hours to let us know where he is and what's going on. He has never missed curfew, not even a minute late. We appreciate that he is responsible like this and for the most part is very honest with us about what is going on. I in particular (his mom) have told him repeatedly that I am against what he is doing and that he is not to have any of this stuff in our home. I have thrown out things I have found on numerous occasions. His Dad has talked to him as well about the legal, school and other implications of doing this. He used to be a person that was so respectful, spoke nicely and now when you talk to him about this stuff every second word is F OFF. He is such a bright, talented person with such a bright future ahead of him if he would stop doing pot. We have tried a lot of stuff, spoke to several drug counsellors, his school,etc. He says he is going to smoke pot until the day he dies.

We know that this is an escape from the emotional pain that he is trying to run away from. I know that he needs to see a counsellor but he flat out refuses.

What we want to know is if anybody has any suggestions for how to handle this.

We were thinking of bribing him to stay off drugs by setting up a bank account for him that shows monthly deposits if he stays clean. Possible a "car" account for the future. Would this work?