ARS
10-17-2006, 02:11 AM
Dear dr. Mike,
Your "Extraordinary Stories of Ordinary Teens" triggered bunch of feelings and thinking inside of me, it made me smile and cry a lot as well. But they made me proud of our teens even more, of their (daily) heroism we’re so seldom aware of; because we’re too wounded ourselves, too judgmental, or too blind to acknowledge it.
Thank you for your extensive insight into 20 heroic teen lives, for their sharing as well as yours. And I wish that this and similar sharing would make us all stronger in order to better and faster cope with our struggles, our (distort) self image, our rights, wrongs and doubts, as well as enable us to overcome lack of love inside of us that most probably triggers most of what we sincerely don’t wish to give or/and receive into our lives; equally right for teens and adults, much burdening on both, but can be so much more disastrous for teens than for us. We all need healing…
Those stories, through your unconditional love for kids and challenging words to parents/adults, brought out the sides of my parenting up that I wish would have never occurred or happened… But also the ones I am proud of, especially the overall picture of our story that frames a great teenager (of 16 years now) and her “for-ever-single” mom. There are some things I’ve done right for sure, but as I keep reminding me that there is always more that I can do and be a better person and a role model, and as I don’t pretend to be able to be a perfect parent…
Reading the last story in your book, I cried my eyes out. Among others, it bluntly brought out all my hunger that is still not nurtured. It reminded me that there are still longings and famine that I’ve not managed to feed. It friendly reminded me that life arranges most of the challenging “lessons” for me in order to bring me closer to myself and nurture the wounded child within. The child that has almost never felt the sincere and unconditional love and experienced its deeds, never heard praise and felt so needed support.
It reminded me that my most important duty in life is to “feed” me, unconditionally love myself first. And all the juggling to obtain/reach that, to bring it to my life and live, enables me becoming more and more the kind of a parent that I wish my kid would have.
And in the meantime, I only wish not to become that one too late … and make a “fatal” mistake when parenting this great teen I’m fortunate to still have around. She triggers the best out of me, but - as we’re living alone - also the worst. And she’s facing that kind of mom on a daily basis. I wish her all the strength and wisdom to cope with both, “good and bad” versions of her mom, self and others in a way that she’ll become the adult knowing how and be willing to cope with lack of… whatever.
Good luck to both of us… and to all of you.
Thank you, dr. Mike!
Love,
ARS
Your "Extraordinary Stories of Ordinary Teens" triggered bunch of feelings and thinking inside of me, it made me smile and cry a lot as well. But they made me proud of our teens even more, of their (daily) heroism we’re so seldom aware of; because we’re too wounded ourselves, too judgmental, or too blind to acknowledge it.
Thank you for your extensive insight into 20 heroic teen lives, for their sharing as well as yours. And I wish that this and similar sharing would make us all stronger in order to better and faster cope with our struggles, our (distort) self image, our rights, wrongs and doubts, as well as enable us to overcome lack of love inside of us that most probably triggers most of what we sincerely don’t wish to give or/and receive into our lives; equally right for teens and adults, much burdening on both, but can be so much more disastrous for teens than for us. We all need healing…
Those stories, through your unconditional love for kids and challenging words to parents/adults, brought out the sides of my parenting up that I wish would have never occurred or happened… But also the ones I am proud of, especially the overall picture of our story that frames a great teenager (of 16 years now) and her “for-ever-single” mom. There are some things I’ve done right for sure, but as I keep reminding me that there is always more that I can do and be a better person and a role model, and as I don’t pretend to be able to be a perfect parent…
Reading the last story in your book, I cried my eyes out. Among others, it bluntly brought out all my hunger that is still not nurtured. It reminded me that there are still longings and famine that I’ve not managed to feed. It friendly reminded me that life arranges most of the challenging “lessons” for me in order to bring me closer to myself and nurture the wounded child within. The child that has almost never felt the sincere and unconditional love and experienced its deeds, never heard praise and felt so needed support.
It reminded me that my most important duty in life is to “feed” me, unconditionally love myself first. And all the juggling to obtain/reach that, to bring it to my life and live, enables me becoming more and more the kind of a parent that I wish my kid would have.
And in the meantime, I only wish not to become that one too late … and make a “fatal” mistake when parenting this great teen I’m fortunate to still have around. She triggers the best out of me, but - as we’re living alone - also the worst. And she’s facing that kind of mom on a daily basis. I wish her all the strength and wisdom to cope with both, “good and bad” versions of her mom, self and others in a way that she’ll become the adult knowing how and be willing to cope with lack of… whatever.
Good luck to both of us… and to all of you.
Thank you, dr. Mike!
Love,
ARS