Worried - is it too late??

[River99]

We have a 20 year old daughter. She is my step daughter but I've raised her since 11 when her mentally unstable mom dropped her off at our door and has had no contact with her for five years. Ok.....our daughter was a A student in a private school here and was very social and worked while in high school too. She graduated and entered a very prestigous private college in town and lived in the dorm and made A's-B's. She then moved out into an apt with friends and her grades started to decline. This year she promised to do better, so we paid another 20,000 for tuition and we have now found out she has failed all of her classes again. She won't return our calls so I had her cell phone turned off hoping she would then call. We know the apt complex but not her specific apt. because she moved into a different one without telling us. She signed the lease without consulting us so we have no way legally to ask the apt. manager. Some have said to let her go and hopefully one day she will realize what she has done and wake up and get back out there but I think she is clinically depressed and just doesn't know what to do with her life and has just withdrawn from life so to speak - not to mention flat broke.

Last time we spoke she was upbeat and ready to get back on track but she never did. This has become habit with her and I just don't know how much longer we should keep "telling" her she needs to get off her butt and get going with life.

What do we do? Do we just let her go and let her fend for herself? Obviously she has been doing this for months but the thought of her mooching off of her friends sickens me. And she has in the past lied to friend's parents saying we kicked her out, etc. and this was all lies. So how would a therapist even help her if she just sitd there and lies about her past, etc?

I could go on and on but..........

Any advice??