googie1262
01-02-2007, 06:05 AM
The New Year came in with a bang, and I am not sure if I did the right thing. I could really use your thoughts on this Dr. Bradley.
You can see my thread for drugs and alchohol. 15 and a half year old girs, very connected to Me, excellent student..etc...etc..has been dabbling in the pot and alchohol thing. Used all of your techniques, and decided that following a mess where she called me to pick her up (drunk and sick), I have always told her to call me no matter what), I am going to the next phase of restrictions, supports..etc..Part of this phase also included filling her father in, which I am afraid has become a disasteriouse mistake.
My daughter's father is emotionally unstable best, and took this information with total insanity. It started with berating me for not telling him about the first time....threatening chiild support, to showing up at me and my boyfriend's house (we have owned the house together for years, and he is very available to my daughter). He attempted to enter the house, was on our property, and my boyfriend and him almost came to blows. I called the police and made a report, he was outside, screaminmg ranting in front of our neighbors. He hasn't lost it like this in a long time, but I have a feeling something is wrong at home..(wife, money, etc), and this is how it coming out. He is more outrageous than I have seen him in years. He said horrible things to my daughter like , I don't love you, you will never see your little sister again because you are a drug addict, I'll break your legs...e.tc..etc...etc...just went crazy. She is devastated, on time of already being embarrassed and disgusted with her behavior from New Years.
My question for you is probably for next time. I am already seeking professional help as needed, and believe that my daughter will be ok, but am I obligated to tell such a nut case about these things? It just makes it so much worse with her.,this is sure to put her in a downward spiral on many accounts.
You can see my thread for drugs and alchohol. 15 and a half year old girs, very connected to Me, excellent student..etc...etc..has been dabbling in the pot and alchohol thing. Used all of your techniques, and decided that following a mess where she called me to pick her up (drunk and sick), I have always told her to call me no matter what), I am going to the next phase of restrictions, supports..etc..Part of this phase also included filling her father in, which I am afraid has become a disasteriouse mistake.
My daughter's father is emotionally unstable best, and took this information with total insanity. It started with berating me for not telling him about the first time....threatening chiild support, to showing up at me and my boyfriend's house (we have owned the house together for years, and he is very available to my daughter). He attempted to enter the house, was on our property, and my boyfriend and him almost came to blows. I called the police and made a report, he was outside, screaminmg ranting in front of our neighbors. He hasn't lost it like this in a long time, but I have a feeling something is wrong at home..(wife, money, etc), and this is how it coming out. He is more outrageous than I have seen him in years. He said horrible things to my daughter like , I don't love you, you will never see your little sister again because you are a drug addict, I'll break your legs...e.tc..etc...etc...just went crazy. She is devastated, on time of already being embarrassed and disgusted with her behavior from New Years.
My question for you is probably for next time. I am already seeking professional help as needed, and believe that my daughter will be ok, but am I obligated to tell such a nut case about these things? It just makes it so much worse with her.,this is sure to put her in a downward spiral on many accounts.