update

[scaredmomma]

Thanks for all of your support. Well, we took away his phone and blocked him from using the computer. We have also booked a family counselling session for later this week. Originally he said he wouldn't go but now he says he will. I told him he could just sit there. This isn't just about him. This is to help us too. All has been good since this happened 5 days ago. He hasn't seen or talked to the people he was with when he got into this trouble. Then two days ago he once again spoke to his friend's girlfriend. She said she had his friends adapter for his mp3 player and my son was going to get it from her. They were to meet at the mall. I offered to drive him over to pick it up. I thought it better that way!Well, he called and said we were on our way. She lives across the city. We get there. I waited for 20 minutes in the car. When he came in the car, she said she lost it. I wasn't surprized really. She plays both of these boys quite easily. So now, my son is purchasing a replacement. I asked him why she doesn't replace it and he went ballistic. He became this angry raging boy once again. Every time he is near her, this happens. I just wish he wasn't so easily influenced. I am really looking forward to the family counselling. I know it will help. Then we get home and he wants us to take money out of his bank account to buy an ipod. I said no. He kept hammering at me but I remained calm and stood my ground. I suggested he get a job. I have no intention of handing over $200. Especially the way he has been acting. I am trying to be firm. It is so hard. I also really appreciate all of the support. I need it right now!

[think2create]

Hang in There

Sounds like your doing good so far even though it's hard.

[jannie]

Momma,

I’m sure this girl does play your son. He’s only 14. He still needs to acquire the life experiences to be able to recognize people like her. Without exposure to people like this girl, he won’t be able to acquire those life experiences. That being said, this is still not easy for you.
Getting a job at 14 may not be easy for him. Can he do jobs around the house for money for his I-pod? Or maybe mow neighbor’s lawns? If he has to earn money for his extras, next time he won’t be quite so willing to buy replacement parts that someone else lost.
I re-read your postings and boy, do I see myself in you. And my daughter in your son. Believe me, I know it is hard. Many times I’ve been in your shoes, wanting to give in but knowing I can’t. I’ll be praying.
Good luck and hang in there. We are doing the right thing!