out of control with an STD

[adevan]

My daughter is out of control drinking ,smoking potand lieing. She's sixteen and was diagnosed with hpv from 1 of 2 boys she had been sexually active with. I have no control she walks all over me.This has caused some nasty genital warts and I'm taking her to a third specialist tomorrow. But because of this condition and what it has done to her self esteem, she has become more rebellious,drinking smoking and not coming home. When I worn or threaten her with things she says so what. I cant take this. She and her father have a difficult relationship at times because he looses his cool after she blatantly refuses to do over do work or has been drinking. Then she demands that I don't care about her because I don't leave her father. His behavior is usually after this very stubborn and disrespectful teenager has pushed us to our max. My daughter is in cyber school ,a home school, and her father is very helpful with her more difficult classes when she'll let him.
Ive fallen in to depression and anxiety for which the doctor has prescribed Ativan for me. I finally got a therapist but my daughters wont be able to see her for a couple weeks.
I don't want her to flunk out of school or continue on this path. Almost 3 years ago during another rebellious period she drank so much (.47) that she would have died if not found by an adult, put on a vent and life-flighted to a children's hospital.
I don't know what else to do. Any advice? I am reading Yes Your Teen is Crazy

[Mike Bradley]

Dear Mom,
Your family needs to be in counseling last year, not in a few weeks. Call the counselor to see if they can move up your appointment due to the urgency here. Your daughter is at a very high risk of having even worse things happen unless this family quickly regains its bearings.
In the interim, ask your daughter for a temporary truce. Offer her some incentive (bribe) to not do sex and drugs, and to observe a safe curfew at least until counseling starts. Explain that the counseling is for the FAMILY, not just her.
If she refuses, check into the juvenile laws in your state to see if you can get the police/courts involved to keep her safe. Or consider having her live away temporarily with a reliable family friend or relative until you guys can sort out what's going on here.
Keep us posted.