Tracie
07-27-2007, 08:20 AM
Dr. Bradley,
First let me say how helpful your book has been as well as this site (very useful resourceful).
I have a 13 y/o daughter who's "other personality" has switched on just this summer. I have parented her alone. Her dad is in the picture but doesn't contribute to any type of parenting.......period. She has become defiant toward me because her dad doesn't want to be bothered with parenting because it interferes w/ what is "easy" not doing anything. So here I am fighting against the 2 of them over morals and what is appropriate and what is not - I have no backing from him (he might as well be 13 too).
That being said I've decided that I must back off - continually punishing her and being up in her face (as she would say) is not doing any good.
I thought I knew her but it's like there's this underground life she's living and she has completely blocked me out. I can't control what she's doing at her dad's (i've tried) but I can control what she does at my house (i'm her custodial parent) What do I do? am I right is backing off?
As I'm going through this I find myself wondering "why do the dead beat parents get the loyalty??" Right now according to her I'm her #1 enemy and really I'm her #1 fan............ugh this is such a torment.
Tracie
First let me say how helpful your book has been as well as this site (very useful resourceful).
I have a 13 y/o daughter who's "other personality" has switched on just this summer. I have parented her alone. Her dad is in the picture but doesn't contribute to any type of parenting.......period. She has become defiant toward me because her dad doesn't want to be bothered with parenting because it interferes w/ what is "easy" not doing anything. So here I am fighting against the 2 of them over morals and what is appropriate and what is not - I have no backing from him (he might as well be 13 too).
That being said I've decided that I must back off - continually punishing her and being up in her face (as she would say) is not doing any good.
I thought I knew her but it's like there's this underground life she's living and she has completely blocked me out. I can't control what she's doing at her dad's (i've tried) but I can control what she does at my house (i'm her custodial parent) What do I do? am I right is backing off?
As I'm going through this I find myself wondering "why do the dead beat parents get the loyalty??" Right now according to her I'm her #1 enemy and really I'm her #1 fan............ugh this is such a torment.
Tracie