wendalls
08-10-2007, 12:11 AM
Hi there, this is my first post, and from browsing, I think this site is amazing!
Well...my 15 year old has been going down hill for over a year. Hanging with the wrong crowd, drinking, sex, lying, sneaking out, cars, boys....
We are at our wits end.
We found out she had been sneaking out the window to go in the "drag train" (fast cars, drinking, boys), and sneaking back in at 5am, and we were none the wiser for god knows how long.
She has a 17 year old boyfriend, who left school over a year ago, has a fast car, gives her alcohol, has sex with her etc.
we have come to a compromise that he can see her at our place...but we are not happy and DO NOT accept him.
Now we have heard from her that he is cheating on her (yes he told her) and she is still with him.
She has 2 personalities, the girl I mentioned above, and the girl who does well at school, has a job and even goes to youth group!
It is like living with dr jeckyll and mr hyde, and to be honest I don't trust her or even like her at the moment.
She tells us what we want to hear, then is off doing her self destructive thing.
And YES we are in counselling, her individually, and us as a family.
How do I like this kid again, when she puts herself in danger, and doesn't care that it is breaking my heart.
Her stepdad - my partner has given up, I am parenting her as he is just so angry at what she is doing to me.
I have worked with at-risk youth, know all the techniques, but it is so much harder when it is your own kid, and you are at the police station with a photo reporting them missing.
HELP!
Well...my 15 year old has been going down hill for over a year. Hanging with the wrong crowd, drinking, sex, lying, sneaking out, cars, boys....
We are at our wits end.
We found out she had been sneaking out the window to go in the "drag train" (fast cars, drinking, boys), and sneaking back in at 5am, and we were none the wiser for god knows how long.
She has a 17 year old boyfriend, who left school over a year ago, has a fast car, gives her alcohol, has sex with her etc.
we have come to a compromise that he can see her at our place...but we are not happy and DO NOT accept him.
Now we have heard from her that he is cheating on her (yes he told her) and she is still with him.
She has 2 personalities, the girl I mentioned above, and the girl who does well at school, has a job and even goes to youth group!
It is like living with dr jeckyll and mr hyde, and to be honest I don't trust her or even like her at the moment.
She tells us what we want to hear, then is off doing her self destructive thing.
And YES we are in counselling, her individually, and us as a family.
How do I like this kid again, when she puts herself in danger, and doesn't care that it is breaking my heart.
Her stepdad - my partner has given up, I am parenting her as he is just so angry at what she is doing to me.
I have worked with at-risk youth, know all the techniques, but it is so much harder when it is your own kid, and you are at the police station with a photo reporting them missing.
HELP!