swolfe
10-11-2007, 04:04 PM
My 14 yr old daughter started hanging out with some "bad" girls this summer. I have since found out that they've done about everything a mother wouldn't want them to do. Now that school started, I've gotten phone calls weekly from the principal. She's missing school because of a mystery illness - drinking/drugs???, so many tardies she's on no credit status, caught burning her arm in the bathroom (because another girl did it and it looked cool), and today it was harassing another girl until she cried - which got her suspended for two days. I'm not kidding, I never dreamed a summer around some new kids could change my daughter so much! If I'd only known.
But now I do and I have been taking her to a really good counselor, she's been seen by a psychiatrist who has prescribed Zoloft for some depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsiveness. She has been very open with us about everything she's done - at least she talks to us. My daughter has been grounded for over a month, but still wants to hang with the "bad" girls, and has pretty much been shunned by her good friends. My husband and I have said we'll let her do things (supervised) when she starts making the right decisions, stays out of trouble and away from those friends, and gets her grades back up, and she knows this. She seems to have no interest in anything but those friends. She just doesn't care. What else can I do - or am I doing too much. Should I just let her figure out what's right and wrong. She has an older brother who she is embarassing terribly, but again she just doesn't see it. We love her so much so please, any suggestions would be great!!!
But now I do and I have been taking her to a really good counselor, she's been seen by a psychiatrist who has prescribed Zoloft for some depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsiveness. She has been very open with us about everything she's done - at least she talks to us. My daughter has been grounded for over a month, but still wants to hang with the "bad" girls, and has pretty much been shunned by her good friends. My husband and I have said we'll let her do things (supervised) when she starts making the right decisions, stays out of trouble and away from those friends, and gets her grades back up, and she knows this. She seems to have no interest in anything but those friends. She just doesn't care. What else can I do - or am I doing too much. Should I just let her figure out what's right and wrong. She has an older brother who she is embarassing terribly, but again she just doesn't see it. We love her so much so please, any suggestions would be great!!!