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ghearne1947
03-29-2004, 08:42 PM
Last week my daughter was arrested for shoplifting. I got her out and we talked and I really felt things were going to be better but she still choses to live with friends instead of coming home. I really miss her but don't want to force her in to coming back but I really hate being a part time mom. I thought if she were living somewhere else she would miss me but it seems like she is happier away from me. What can I do I feel so hopeless.
Mike Bradley
03-31-2004, 09:06 AM
Dear Part Time Mom,
I'd suggest that you see a counselor who works with teens to advise you on how to proceed. There are many things the couselor will need to learn about your family prior to suggesting a plan.
I can tell you that it is unsafe for a teen to live without adult supervision. I might also add that shoplifting has become a huge "sport" among teens. They don't see that as stealing, and some become addicted to the "rush" they get when they steal. For many, stealing is a kind of medication they use to offset depression.
These indications about your kid are pretty serious. Get some help quickly.
Good luck, and please keep us posted.
mackadi
04-02-2004, 07:23 PM
Our daughter ran away also and I know how hard it can be. She was willing to come home, however, because we were willing to start negotiating about the things she wanted to see different at home, like spending the night at girlfriends, staying out later, etc. It has been better and I would just urge you to take her to dinner, movies, spend time with her and ask her to come home during the week and just spend the weekends out for starters. Or just a night or two at first if that's all she'll do. If she will go to counselor with you that would be great, if not I'd go alone.

Hang in there!
ghearne1947
04-05-2004, 11:37 PM
Thank you so much for your reply it helps knowing you are not alone with these problems. My daughter did decide to return home and we are trying to negociate the rules. We are also going to be getting in to counciling. Thanks again for your concern and I hope all is going well for you and your daughter.