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worried_mom
06-17-2010, 11:31 AM
There is a lot of tension in my house right now. Instead of complaining, I thought I would describe my wonderful 17 year-old daughter.

She is a determined young lady who knows what she wants and works hard to get it. She gets to school by 6:45am to participate in the Jazz Band. She gets great grades and will be starting her forth year on the Varsity tennis team in August. She is a volunteer in several organizations including her church and the city's environmental exploration center. She just started her first paying job working as a day camp counselor for our city.

She always calls to let us know where she is and when she expects to be home. As far as I know, she doesn't do drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, etc...

She isn't perfect. I don't remember a time when she did something around the house without being asked. She'd rather sit and watch TV or play on the computer than do something productive. She lets her room get messy. She forgets to do simple ongoing tasks we've asked her to do. She antagonizes her 14 yo sister (when there not acting like best-of-friends).

She shows maturity beyond her years. She's willing to make the first move to get things resolved when things erupt.

She's sensitive and craves our love and acceptance.

I feel very lucky that she is in my life and I am both anticipating and dreading the day when she goes off to college to start a new phase in her life.

amimom
06-29-2010, 07:24 PM
What is the tension about? Is it tension that you feel or you and your daughter have? Is it your feelings about her leaving home? I think these feelings are to be expected.

For the first time in my relationship with my 15-year-old son, I feel like we have a rift in our relationship because I think he's making a bad choice. It feels terrible.

In contrast, it sounds like you have a great daughter and are doing a great job because the issues you describe are normal for teens. You are correct about focusing on her many positive traits.

Dr. Bradley's book describes scenarios where you might require help, but I don't see that here.

c