belairsun
09-22-2006, 10:31 AM
Dr. Bradley:
I have lost all hope. Unless God provides a miracle I believe I have lost my child. I moved from So. Cal to No. Cal 1 & 1/2 yrs ago. My ex refused to work out a custody/visitation schedule (he doesn't want to pay child supp & is motivated cuz he lost custody of his children frm 1st marriage) so we have been tied up in court ever since. I am in day 10 of a long cust. hearing where the court is totally biased. I started with 60% custody & now have less than 20%. Through testimony my ex has been impeached re: several issues, lying to evaluator & court abt being bi-polar, taking lithium, he is being investigated for Fraud, lied about income etc on & on. . . My 15 yr. old daughter does not want to come live w/me because I instill boundries and values that she hasn't had to abide by since she's been w/her dad. He has totally alienated her towards me. The court appted minor's counsel & my daughter has totally manipulated the attorney. The atty stood up in court & diagnosed my daughter's problem (intense anger w/mom for moving) after spending a whole 2 hours w/my daughter. She also diagnoised that I & ex need therapy and need to be coached in communication skills, without ever having spoken with either of us. The judge accepted the attys recommendations and made orders. Judge also accepted attys recomm. for me to travel to L.A. one wkend a month to have custody of my daughter. FYI- I have been in therapy, my daughter has been in therapy for over a year w/therapist which atty failed to speak with prior to making recommendation. My job won't let me off to travel (I'm on call-I'm a crime scene tech). I need help. My daughter has totally learned to manipulate the system to get what she wants by learning from her father. Can you give me any advice on how to help her or the court see what is going on? We all know that 15 yr. olds NEVER lie. Please help me.
Sincerely,
Mom without hope.
I have lost all hope. Unless God provides a miracle I believe I have lost my child. I moved from So. Cal to No. Cal 1 & 1/2 yrs ago. My ex refused to work out a custody/visitation schedule (he doesn't want to pay child supp & is motivated cuz he lost custody of his children frm 1st marriage) so we have been tied up in court ever since. I am in day 10 of a long cust. hearing where the court is totally biased. I started with 60% custody & now have less than 20%. Through testimony my ex has been impeached re: several issues, lying to evaluator & court abt being bi-polar, taking lithium, he is being investigated for Fraud, lied about income etc on & on. . . My 15 yr. old daughter does not want to come live w/me because I instill boundries and values that she hasn't had to abide by since she's been w/her dad. He has totally alienated her towards me. The court appted minor's counsel & my daughter has totally manipulated the attorney. The atty stood up in court & diagnosed my daughter's problem (intense anger w/mom for moving) after spending a whole 2 hours w/my daughter. She also diagnoised that I & ex need therapy and need to be coached in communication skills, without ever having spoken with either of us. The judge accepted the attys recommendations and made orders. Judge also accepted attys recomm. for me to travel to L.A. one wkend a month to have custody of my daughter. FYI- I have been in therapy, my daughter has been in therapy for over a year w/therapist which atty failed to speak with prior to making recommendation. My job won't let me off to travel (I'm on call-I'm a crime scene tech). I need help. My daughter has totally learned to manipulate the system to get what she wants by learning from her father. Can you give me any advice on how to help her or the court see what is going on? We all know that 15 yr. olds NEVER lie. Please help me.
Sincerely,
Mom without hope.