10-02-2006, 04:46 PM
Our 15 YO teen is struggling with us terribly right now and has been for the past three years. She wants us to stay out of her business, and leave her alone, but she won't communicate with us at all, or tells us anything about what is going on in her life. She does not like school, refuses to meet classwork deadlines, yet says she wants to get good grades and go to college. She was complaining of us nagging her about schoolwork, and said she could handle it herself but she has fallen even farther behind, failing in numerous classes and school has only been in session three weeks. She has little fear of consequences, and has no respect for adults. She has been diagnoised with ADD and takes meds to focus, but chooses not to do this consistantly. At present my daughter claims to only have two friends and she seems lonely. I think computer time and phone time go way over the top, but I imagine if she is so unhappy and bored with life then any distraction would be preferred over enhancing her own abilities. Last night a huge incident took place that blew up to a point where we had to call the police for support. We are at a loss as parents and feel helpless with this child. We are tired of struggling and feel like giving up. Do we just let go? If so what is the process and who is the support? How do we do this?