Last night I found a pipe and lighter in my 14 year old daughters backpack. When I confronted her about it, she wasn't apologetic or ashamed. I tried to stay calm and talk about my concerns for her decision making and safety and that I love her more than anyone else in her life and care more about her safety. I am a single mother with an 11 year old. My daughter and I have had a difficult relationship for the last year and I feel absolutely helpless to help her. I have to work and her father is having his own struggles so he isn't able to help. I am concerned that what I have found is the tip of the iceberg and that her lack of remore or concern is almost worse than the use and perhaps it means that she is already far gone. Any feedback would be helpful.