Hi im new here...im raising a 13 year old boy which im finding extremly challenging. He tells me he hates me all the time, mostly after ive taken something off him for being really rude or constantly hassling me over something i have said no to.

I feel like if i say no to anything his constant remark is becoming.."I hate this house, i hate you all, im going to live somewhere else...i hate my life"

I feel like im losing it more with him lately and my patients is wearing out...i swore at him the other night after a long arguement and told him to just f$%@ off...i never react like this usually...id just had enough.

He lost his computor for his behaviour during the arguement and for continuing to go on after i had said no many many times...

now he wont talk to me and hates me and says that "how come you say things that are bad and nothing happens to you, you just go on my merry way with life and I have to miss out on the computor etc"

i apologized immediatly after what i said...but it doesnt seem to mean anything...i know i stuffed up and have now given him something to use against me which diverts it from being away from him...but i know i did the wrong thing too.

Im starting to feel like he really does hate me and that he really would rather live somewhere else.

anyway...thanks for listening