Do not know what to do?

[smcc15]

My husband is constantly sticking up for our crazy,rude,15 year old son.
If my son and I (mom) are arguing my husband acts like he doesn't hear ,or walks out of room,or he will even come to our sons defense. it is always against me. Have I done something to make our family this way?
thanks smcc15

[Mike Bradley]

Dear Mom,
I have no idea why things are as they are in your home but you pose a great question that you might ask your family. Please tell them that you, for one, are tired of all the bad feelings (don't they feel like a terrible weight?) and that as a family perhaps you guys should get some counseling to help you remember that you do love and care for each other, and to find ways of working out those conflicts without the yelling and taking sides. The odds are huge that they are sick of the sadness as well.
Please don't hesitate. Those bad feelings can cause deep cuts in the fabric of your family over time.
Take care.

[StaciesMom]

in order to maintain the parent-child division as well as receive the respect a parent deserves, your husband must not contradict you in front of your kids. It undermines your authority and in order to stick together as a team, you should discuss your differences of opinion in private.