First, let me say that I recommend Doc Bradley's books to anyone who has teens. I always receive "thank you's" for the recommendation from those who have read the books. I never thought I would be writing in with a question, but here I am.
I have a newly turned, well-developed, 13 year old daughter. She is bright, active, and engaged in school, community and church activities. Recently, I read her myspace mail which included a communication from a neighborhood boy, one year older. He was quite explicit with his sexual requests from her including asking her to send him nude pics. She skirted the issue but continued to communicate with him. It took me some time to figure out what I wished to say to her but finally sat down and discussed the issue. She already knew that I had the option of looking at her myspace at any time as that was our agreement when she set it up. I don't normally check her messages but her behavior one evening concerned me, so I looked at her last message which was from this boy.
She listened to my concerns and I let her know that people view us according to our behaviors and the boundaries we set. I let her know that I believed this boy was very inappropriate in his behaviors and that he did not respect her if he was asking her to do these things. She responded that he was just joking. I let her know that this was not a joke and it reflects poorly on her when she continues to respond to him. She has since stopped communicating with him on myspace but is now doing so on her cell phone. His latest request is for her to "send pics of her boobs" to him. I am at a loss as to what to do. I am tempted to go to this boys parents or the school for intervention, but I also recognize that my daughter needs to deal with this issue as there will be other issues like this in the future. I would appreciate any guidance in this area. I am very concerned about her. Thank you!