When is enough enough?
I don't know where to start. Our soon to be 15 yr old son has shown addictive behavior to the online video games for the past two years. His grades have slowly declined (he is an honor student and very gifted), his habits and attitudes demonstate the behaviors of a person addicted to something - although not quite as bad a drugs. He lost the ability to be respectful, kind, loving, on any regular basis unless he needs something. He's critical of his brother, me, and blames others (me!) routinely. He has given up his passion for lacrosse and sports teams. He spends hours playing the games. So today, for the last time I took the gaming computer out of the house and sold it. His insolent behaviors are intolerable and the "dispassionate" role cracked today. Tonight I told him what a jerk he is, how his teachers didn't like him (he gave them a hard time b/c he wasn't turning in work), how he couldn't make friends because of his winning personality (he's been home almost every day and night since school let out June 23), and what a disappointment he has been (I told him I don't even know who he is anymore). Frankly, I know I was wrong but I've already raised two step-children before him, one who went to a special boarding school b/c he was out of control (although there is quite a difference in the issues) and I was not going to try to work full time, and have this brat ruin our home life. I had it with trying to keep him engaged and attached showing him I love him and giving him the benefit of the doubt for his rudeness. Now that I have my own "crazy" outburst in the open, I am looking for a counselor (he said he wouldn't go) for me. I live in Dr. Bradley's geographical territory and believe me I've googled looking for an office number many times!!! I am married but I want to make sure the insurance covers the visits. I know there are areas of our family life where things could be better there by alleviating some behaviors (like my husbands addiction to the computer screen) , but I refuse to let this 15 year and his rude mouth rule our home any longer. FYI the LoneMom screen name came about 6 months ago when I registered b/c my husband doesn't get the parenting thing after the kids are born, he's a bit more like a fun uncle, nice guy and a lot of self pleasing/"me" behaviors. That said, are you taking new patients? If not, do you have a recommendation - I am located in the PHL suburbs. Thank you!!