This is very scary information. Some thoughts: personally I woudn't worry whatsoever at this point about whether your husband is on the same page or not. You now have knowledge(which I think you already knew in your heart) that this is a life and death situation. You have to act to save him. The "how" is the hard part. If it were me, I think I'd pick up the phone immediately and call any local in-pt. rehabs and explain the situation. Ask the professionals what to do and how to get him in their facility. They should be able to give you concrete advice. I'd also immediately call the therapist that was working with you to see if he has a contact or the ability to do something, to get him help in light of this new information.
I also wondered whether he could be involuntarily committed to a psych/substance abuse unit on a 302 as a harm to himself? I know a bit about that, but not sure about the legal ramifications if he is using heroin. It's a very fine line and would be something to ask the rehab., a counselor or a lawyer. You want him in treatment, not in jail!
The other option would be that if he seems the least bit in physical danger, or off in any way, that you could perhaps call 911 to get him hospitalized in a general hospital and then when they eval. him and he's stabilized, he could go directly from there to a rehab. He will need to detox in either place.
Another thought might be that if your older son feels that he wants help, how about beseeching, totally begging him to talk to his brother about both he and his brother getting help together and both entering a rehab. Would your 18 yr. old listen to an older brother who is struggling with the same problem? Your older son was concerned enough to bring this to you and you then might be able to persuade him to be an ally in getting help for your 18 yr. old. He may have strong feelings about not wanting him to go through what he has.
All in all, like Andersr4 said, he needs help and FAST. You can't observe or sit back anymore. He needs immediate treatment and to do that you need to use anything and everything at your disposal to make it happen. I'm very worried about him.
Please keep us posted.
Last edited by Esprit; 06-04-2010 at 08:29 PM.
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