15 year old having sex and announcing to world

[egmom]

My 15 year old daughter has been talking about sex for quite a while, so we knew she was at risk for this behavior. In the spring, we caught her sending explicit texts to quite a few boys. We took her to a helper where she has been treated for depresssion. She has seemed so much better these past few months - grades are where they should be (she switched schools which seemed to help), she is so much happier (she doesn't walk around telling us how much she hates us all the time), etc. However, recently, she has started talking about going back to the old school because she feels like she doesn't fit in at the new school, which baffles us because she has good friends there and always comes home happy. However, right before Christmas she apparently had sex with a boy who she hung with out with, but was not in a relationship with. He stated afterwards that he was not ready for a relationship because he has too many family issues - we tried to point that out as a typical response from a boy after sex, but she doesn't seem to get it. She seemed unperturbed and 3 days later sent a picture of herself in her underwear to another boy that she really likes. She also told this boy about having sex. Ugh! I can only imagine what he thinks, but she just thinks he's wonderful and will stick by her no matter what. She told me about the picture and sex because she had a brief panic that she might be pregnant. She is not, luckily. We took away her phone for a while due to the picture and having been having lots of talks about sex. I thought maybe we were getting through to her when I discovered texts on her ipod where she has told at least 3 boys about losing her virginity, one of which she doesn't even know. She even told him she was hungover, which I'm pretty sure is not true since she was home with us over those days. I am beside myself. Is this all symptoms that she is not over depression or something else? We are increasing our visits back to the helper - we had been down to once a month, now we're going weekly again, but I need another opinion. She does not know that I saw the ipod texts. I will be talking to her about tonight. I am going to have to tell her that her Dad and I feel like she is not ready for the responsibility of a phone, ipod with texting, etc and that we're going to remove those priviledges for awhile to protect her until she can handle them. She will not be happy. And of course, there's always facebook when I'm not around. I can't even disable our internet connection, because we have a neighbor with an unprotected wireless router that she knows how to connect to. Please help with any advice you have.

[Mike Bradley]

Dear Parent,
It sounds to me that you've responded perfectly to your daughter's behavior, especially the part about linking her autonomy (phone, computer use, freedom) with her responsibility (making good decisions). Tell your neighbor that some angry FBI agents could show up at her door if any teenagers decided to send crazy things via her unprotected wireless router. Now it's time for the helper to try and sort out what the heck is going on. If she was medicated for depression, perhaps the med needs to be adjusted. Some kids develop tolerances for medications which requires med increasing/switching/potentiating (combining with another med). I'd also explore the possibility of a bi-polar disorder emerging in your girl (perhaps bi-polar type 2) which requires an different medicine path than depression.
In the meantime, try and view her behaviors as symptoms, not sins, and keep telling her that you love her far too much to let her act out in ways that could hurt her terribly.
Take care and keep us posted.

[Marshal Mathers]

well its not deprssion its her horomons she a young lady but u should home school her so she cant have sex wit boys she likes but u did right with takin her phone but u should buy her a phone with min.