I am devastated. My husband and I just discovered that our 15 year old had sex with her boyfriend of 7 months for the first time. She was very matter of fact about it when we confronted her and said that she didn't feel like it was a mistake; they had discussed it and they were both "ready." What do we do now?

We told her that we do not approve; she may think she is old enough, but she isn't on many levels, and have all three of us met with her therapist. We met with her boyfriend's parents, who feel the same way we do.

We know there must be a place between the one extreme of "you can't see each other ever again" and "Ok, honey, here's some birth control.. do what you want." I honestly don't know what to do. Please advise.